Cherishing
someone is the greatest thing anyone can ever do. Cherishing your family and
friends will always remind them you deeply care for them. It is another way to
send them your love. Some of them may receive the love for a lifetime, and
others will receive it in a shorter time span. All in all, no matter who we
choose to cherish will all receive some measure of our love.
The ones we
cherish will always live in our hearts. They live within our hearts because
they have become a part of us.
But, at an
unexpected moment we lose the most cherished. Losing them in any situation is
always heartbreaking. They may leave our lives because they had chosen to go
down a path another path without you, or in another situation, God chose to
take way sooner then you had ever expected. Losing them is the hardest part in
our lives where we feel helpless, useless, and above all lonely.
We feel
mixed emotions and go through different phases we do not realize are happening
to us. We go through numerous amounts of thoughts of what could have been done,
and there are also all of the thoughts of wondering why. Why? Why did it have to
happen so soon? Why did it have to happen to me? Well, all of that is beyond
our control.
Reading this
you may be having flashbacks. You may be thinking of the people who have left
your life. Millions of memories may be flashing through your mind. All of the
happy and all of the bad times that you had with them is only making you miss
them more. You are not alone.
Lately I have
been thinking of a family member who had passed away of cancer. My grandfather
was a great man. He stepped in as my father figure when my dad had passed away
a couple short months before I was born. My grandfather had always been there
when I needed him. He always took care of me and always made sure I was always happy.
With all of them times that we spent together we always enjoyed each other’s
company. Overall, he just always put my
sister and me first before everything else. He had so much love for us. I do
miss him dearly, but I have to move on. If I continue to mourn he would be disappointed
that I still miss him. He would tell me:
“Brandon, I’m okay. Stop thinking of me and
worry more on your school, sports, and taking care of your grandma, mother, and
sister. I am in a better place and I’m always watching over you. You can’t
continue to think about me. There are times to mourn and other times it is not
necessary.”
Although his
death came unexpectedly, it helped me come to the realization that nobody can
live forever. They can only be remembered through memories and live within our
hearts by the love we have for them. So, anyone worth your love, cherish them
because they may not be there forever.
