The Power of Cherishing..

Cherishing someone is the greatest thing anyone can ever do. Cherishing your family and friends will always remind them you deeply care for them. It is another way to send them your love. Some of them may receive the love for a lifetime, and others will receive it in a shorter time span. All in all, no matter who we choose to cherish will all receive some measure of our love.

The ones we cherish will always live in our hearts. They live within our hearts because they have become a part of us.

But, at an unexpected moment we lose the most cherished. Losing them in any situation is always heartbreaking. They may leave our lives because they had chosen to go down a path another path without you, or in another situation, God chose to take way sooner then you had ever expected. Losing them is the hardest part in our lives where we feel helpless, useless, and above all lonely.

We feel mixed emotions and go through different phases we do not realize are happening to us. We go through numerous amounts of thoughts of what could have been done, and there are also all of the thoughts of wondering why. Why? Why did it have to happen so soon? Why did it have to happen to me? Well, all of that is beyond our control.

Reading this you may be having flashbacks. You may be thinking of the people who have left your life. Millions of memories may be flashing through your mind. All of the happy and all of the bad times that you had with them is only making you miss them more. You are not alone.

Lately I have been thinking of a family member who had passed away of cancer. My grandfather was a great man. He stepped in as my father figure when my dad had passed away a couple short months before I was born. My grandfather had always been there when I needed him. He always took care of me and always made sure I was always happy. With all of them times that we spent together we always enjoyed each other’s company.  Overall, he just always put my sister and me first before everything else. He had so much love for us. I do miss him dearly, but I have to move on. If I continue to mourn he would be disappointed that I still miss him. He would tell me:

 “Brandon, I’m okay. Stop thinking of me and worry more on your school, sports, and taking care of your grandma, mother, and sister. I am in a better place and I’m always watching over you. You can’t continue to think about me. There are times to mourn and other times it is not necessary.”

Although his death came unexpectedly, it helped me come to the realization that nobody can live forever. They can only be remembered through memories and live within our hearts by the love we have for them. So, anyone worth your love, cherish them because they may not be there forever.